Many people are searching for their purpose in life – their
ultimate true calling that will make their lives fulfilled – and this search
often comes to the forefront at the approach of a new year. I know because I’ve
been there. I struggled for many years trying to figure out what my purpose was
in life. I even went to a spiritual director to discern my higher calling. But
to no avail. I never got that “magic” answer that I so desperately craved. Most
people are similar in that they expect to have this big “aha” moment when their
purpose is ceremoniously revealed. But it doesn’t work that way.
Then one day, out of the blue, it just hit me that I WAS
fulfilling my purpose in life which is to coach, encourage and motivate
students toward achieving their career goals. I had thought my purpose would be
found in pastoral ministry but then realized that my job was my ministry when I
was kind, supportive and encouraging to my students. While I was searching and
searching and searching, my purpose in life was right there in front of me!
Are you trying to find your purpose in life? The beginning
of a new year is often a time when people reflect on this topic and decide to
make some changes. As with me, your purpose in life might very well be what
you’re doing right now. Does your vocation or avocation bring you joy,
happiness and fulfillment? Do you feel that you’re making a difference, of
whatever magnitude, and affecting people’s lives in a positive way? If not,
then maybe it is the time for you to do some reflecting and discerning to find
your true purpose.
Finding one’s purpose in life can be a highly elusive
concept that often happens fluidly, imperceptibly and organically. Pay
attention to what you naturally love to do. What is it that you get totally
immersed in and lose track of time? Pay attention to those things that bring
you a sense of fulfillment and joy. What do people say you’re good at or are
your key strengths? Pay attention to that as well. Maybe something you’re doing
on a volunteer basis or your hobbies could be your purpose in life.
I remember hearing a story about someone who worked at the
Post Office. She called it her “church” because she offered out kindness and
compassion to all with whom she interacted. Similarly, I once worked with a
woman who was the receptionist in our company, and I would often tell her that
she could do greater things. Liz would always reply with a smile and say that
she loved her role as greeter where she could spread her light and love to all.
Oftentimes finding one’s purpose in life means simply “blooming where you are planted.” Reflect on the ways that you may be currently affecting others in a positive way to make a difference whether it be in your job, volunteer position, hobby, etc. Consider different ways in the new year that you can have a positive impact on those right around you. It doesn’t have to be monumental. As Mother Teresa said, “Do small things with great love.” If you are doing that, then you are fulfilling your purpose in life.
